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Moments That Matter
Marking Transitions in Midlife and Beyond
by Rabbi Laura Geller and Rabbi Beth Lieberman
Foreword by Casper ter Kuile
208 Pages6.00 × 9.00 × 0.60 in
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Moments That Matter offers a fresh perspective on life’s later chapters, transforming them into opportunities for personal growth, meaning, and renewal. With warmth and wisdom, Rabbi Laura Geller and Rabbi Beth Lieberman explore the unique challenges and joys of midlife and beyond, from launching children to launching oneself anew, navigating retirement, downsizing and moving, facing illness and caregiving, and embracing love at any age. The chapters weave Jewish wisdom with practical rituals, interspersed with personal stories and ways to adapt each ceremony for a communal setting. Moments That Matter empowers readers to embrace these milestones with creativity and intention, offering tools to craft personalized and deeply moving rituals that honor the complexity of this rich stage of life.
Casper ter Kuile
In Gratitude
Introduction
PART ONE : Becoming an Elder
1 Celebrating a Milestone Birthday
2 Committing to a Purposeful New Focus
3 From Retirement to Renewment
4 Embracing the Joy of Facing Finitude
PART TWO: Loved Ones
5 Launching Children
6 Relaunching Ourselves
7 Celebrating Friendship
8 Renewing Partnership Vows
9 Becoming a Grandparent/Grandfriend
10 Finalizing a Separation or Divorce
11 Moving Forward After the Death of a Partner
12 Beginning a New Relationship
PART THREE: Bodies Changing, Caregiving, and Caregetting
13 Needing Something to Lean On
14 Coming Out with Memory Loss
15 Becoming a Caregiver or a Caregetter
16 Starting or Ending Medical Treatment
PART FOUR: Community
17 Saying Goodbye to a Parent’s Home
18 Decluttering or Downsizing Your Home
19 Leaving Your Home
20 Moving into a New Community and a New Home
A Concluding Thought
Notes
About the Authors
Rabbi Laura Geller, rabbi emerita of Temple Emanuel of Beverly Hills, was the third woman in the Reform Movement to become a rabbi. Named one of Newsweek’s 50 Most Influential Rabbis in America and by PBS’s Next Avenue as a 2017 Influencer in Aging, she was a cofounder of ChaiVillageLA and is the chair of the Synagogue Village Network. She served on the Corporation of Brown University, from where she graduated in 1971, and on the board of the Jewish Women’s Archive. Currently she serves on the boards of CoGenerate (CoGenerate.org; formerly Encore.org), and the Active Aging Resource Network (ActiveAgingNetwork.org; formerly B3/The Jewish Boomer Platform). She was featured in the PBS documentary Jewish Americans, is the author of numerous articles in books and journals, and was on the editorial board of The Torah: A Women’s Commentary. Her book Getting Good at Getting Older, coauthored with her husband Richard Siegel, z”l, was named a National Jewish Book Award finalist in the category of Contemporary Jewish Life and Practice. She is the mother of Joshua and Elana Goldstein, the stepmother of Andy and Ruth Siegel, the grateful mother-in-law of Janelle Goldstein, Zach Rausnitz, and Will Swanson, and the very proud savta of Avery, Levi, Phoebe, and Nell. Please visit her website at www.rabbilaurageller.com.
Rabbi Beth Lieberman is passionate about growth and innovation in Jewish life. She has served both the Reform and Conservative Movements, organizing and building multigenerational faith communities, and her work in the literary world in the areas of Jewish scholarship, culture, and practice has received national acclaim. She serves as adjunct faculty at the Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion, School of Rabbinical Studies, in Los Angeles, mentoring the next generation of communal leaders. She serves on the editorial board of the CCAR Journal. Her writings have appeared in numerous publications, and she has written and taught widely about her role as literary editor and a revising translator of The JPS TANAKH: Gender-Sensitive Edition (Jewish Publication Society and Sefaria.org, 2023). She lives with her family in California, dividing her time between Los Angeles and New York. Please visit her website at www.rabbibethlieberman.com.
This book is beautiful, tender, and insightful---filled with new/old wisdom on endings and blessed beginnings. At the heart of it all, Rabbis Geller and Lieberman invite us to honor the deep connections that sustain us as human beings, pay attention to the in-between moments, and find a ritual language that speaks directly to the heart. I could imagine no better guides through the landscape of loss, love, and renewed life.
-- Rabbi Sharon Brous, author of The Amen Effect: Ancient Wisdom to Mend Our Broken Hearts and World
Moments That Matter is a beautiful and practical guide, rich with wise and poetic passages and stories pondering the power of the "third chapter" or "encore years." I found myself lingering on many pages, reflecting and finding inspiration. With skillful guidance, this book offers meaningful rituals to honor transitions, empowering readers to embrace life with grace, purpose, and renewed vitality.
-- Rabbi Karyn D. Kedar, author of Unfolding: A High Holy Day Companion
Why should our later years be a time of diminishment and loss? Why not discovery, engagement, and fulfillment? This marvelous book of celebrations, markers, and rituals reveals all the poetry and power of these years. Moments That Matter is a gift to all who truly believe, along with Robert Browning, that "the best is yet to be, the last of life for which the first was made."
-- Rabbi Ed Feinstein, Senior Rabbi, Valley Beth Shalom, Encino, CA
Deeply founded in Jewish tradition, Moments That Matter is also inviting to people of many other places of identity, religious or not. The deft combination of sacred text, accessible action, and clear instruction is a valuable guide for all who are faced with life's inevitable progression. Clergy and laity, communities and individuals, will all find it a great gift.
-- Rev. Dr. Elizabeth Nordquist, Presbyterian pastor and spiritual director
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