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The Year of Mourning
A Jewish Journey
Edited by Rabbi Lisa D. Grant and Lisa B. Segal
Foreword by Rabbi Richard F. Address
216 Pages6.00 × 9.00 × 0.70 in
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The Jewish mourning process is a voyage through pain, brokenness, comfort, resilience, acceptance, and even gratitude. The Year of Mourning: A Jewish Journey offers an expansive array of resources—stories, songs, study texts, poetry, and prayers—to lovingly and patiently guide the bereaved through the first year after their loss. Each week the mourner is encouraged to focus on a particular theme to deepen their Kaddish practice. The book also includes new rituals for shivah, sh’loshim, unveiling, and yahrzeit. The Year of Mourning helps support individuals to regain their grounding after loss and, through the richness of Jewish tradition, deepen their connections to memories of loved ones and to others in the community who are walking a similar path.
Foreword: Why Now? Why Not? Mourning’s Winding Road
Rabbi Richard F. Address, DMin
Acknowledgments
Cover Artist’s Statement
Introduction
Check-Ins: Being There for Yourself
Pain: I Have Lost You Forever
Brokenness: You Were Taken from Me Too Early
Sadness: How Can I Live without You?
Comfort: Seeking Support
Resilience: How I Can Still Feel Close to You
Acceptance: Honoring You, Honoring Myself
Gratitude: Living with Your Memory
Group Rituals
A Ritual for after the Funeral: Beginning to Sit Shivah
A Ritual to Mark the End of Shivah
A Ritual to Mark the End of Sh’loshim
Matzeivah (Unveiling of the Tombstone): A Ritual for Revisiting
Marking the Yahrzeit: A Ritual of Transitioning
Kaddish and Mourning Prayers
Resources
Sources and Permissions
About the Editors
Rabbi Lisa D. Grant, PhD, is Director of the New York Rabbinical School program, Eleanor Sinsheimer Distinguished Service Professor in Jewish Education, and Coordinator of Special Seminary projects at the Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion. In addition to authoring numerous articles, book chapters, and curriculum guides, she is coauthor with Ezra Kopelowitz of Israel Education Matters: A 21st Century Paradigm for Jewish Education. She is coeditor of International Handbook of Jewish Education with Helena Miller and Alex Pomson, and with Diane T. Schuster, Meredith Woocher, and Steven M. Cohen, author of A Journey of Heart and Mind: Transformative Jewish Learning in Adulthood.
Rabbi Grant has been on the faculty of HUC-JIR since 2000. She received her BA from the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, an MBA from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst, a PhD from the Jewish Theological Seminary in New York, and rabbinic ordination from Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion. She is happily married to Billy Weitzer and the proud mother of two adult children.
Cantor Lisa B. Segal serves as cantor and is a founding member of congregation Kolot Chayeinu/Voices of Our Lives in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Ordained in 2011 by the Academy for Jewish Religion in New York, she served as their Director of Cantorial Studies from 2012 to 2014. With her unique voice and spirit, Cantor Segal composes music, creates and leads ritual, and performs in concert, online, and on bimahs beyond her synagogue. Cantor Segal is a member of the American Conference of Cantors and the Women Cantors Network. She and her husband, writer and maggid Arthur “Ari” Strimling, live in Park Slope.
How do mourners get through that empty eternity of their first year without a loved one, that interminable stretch of darkness—perhaps deepening into despair—after shivah ends? Here at last is a way forward: a week-by-week, yearlong pathway through poetry, ritual, music, and the textual wisdom of Jewish tradition, brilliantly conceived and compassionately framed. I recommend it highly for anyone in mourning.
—Rabbi Dr. Lawrence A. Hoffman, Barbara and Stephen Friedman Professor Emeritus of Liturgy, Worship, and Ritual, Hebrew Union College–Jewish Institute of Religion
Walking the path of mourning is very much like wandering in the wilderness; familiar landmarks have become obscured, life’s structures have crumbled. The Year of Mourning is an invaluable compass for this treacherous path. The editors offer a rich array of spiritual resources—texts, songs and prayers—in a format that will affirm, guide, and comfort readers. I know I will share this book often with those who are touched by grief.
—Rabbi Dayle Friedman, author of Jewish Wisdom for Growing Older
Grief is a universal human experience; it stimulates spiritual reflection and yearns for a communal response. Rabbi Lisa D. Grant and Cantor Lisa B. Segal have planted important flora on the inevitable path of grief that we all walk. Each page is a place to linger, look, listen, and reflect. Whether this book sits on your lap or you scroll through it on your device, anywhere your eye focuses will bring a moment of nourishment on your journey.
--Rabbi Eric Weiss, editor of Mishkan Aveilut: Where Grief Resides
The Year of Mourningis a must-have for every clergyperson. After nearly thirty years of guiding congregants through the grieving process, I finally have an all-in-one resource to offer comfort and support beyond the funeral and shivah. Understanding that everyone grieves differently, the editors have created a collection of individual units that gives mourners the ability to move through at their own pace. This special compilation of music, poetry, and reflective questions is a wonderful resource.
--Cantor Claire Franco, Past-President, American Conference of Cantors
A welcome Jewish resource for making the journey through loss.
-- Kirkus Reviews(starred review)
This is not just another book on the laws of mourning or one person's journal of their year of saying Kaddish. The editor collects an excellent selection of meaningful poetry and prayer selections
--Nathan Aaron Rosen, Association of Jewish Libraries
FINALIST: Foreword Reviews INDIES Book of the Year Award (Grief/Grieving category)
FINALIST: Next Generation Indie Book Awards (Spirituality category)
Bronze medal: Independent Publisher Book Awards (Aging/Death & Dying category)
Featured on Kirkus Reviews’ Best Indie Books of 2023
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